Wednesday, December 12, 2012

React Or Respond-What Works?

Part of the process since I started to work with the Striving Styles Personality System was to take myself through the process as well. This helps me to better understand the possibilities that the SSPS has to help anyone achieve their goals, whether that is related to your career, personal life or both.

One of the aspects of  the development roadmap took me through the idea of responding to events or circumstances rather than reacting to them. While initially it seemed like a straightforward idea, like many good ideas the application proved to be a little more complicated. The SSPS tells us that the changes we want to make will take time and practice. In finding how to best utilize the respond rather than react concept this need for time and practice became much clearer. It also became clear that it is easier to change what I do when interacting with some people more so than others. My goal though is to make it work with the 'others' and I thought that was going quite well until an incident over the weekend. I found myself reacting instead of responding to a family member which did not feel great. The difference this time was that rather than worrying about it for days after I was able to recognize what happened, why it did and move on. This particular family member has a long history of 'pushing my buttons' and I have a long history of responding in exactly the way she wants me to. It has long been the 'elephant in the room' from my perspective.

Thanks to the work I have been doing over the last several months I now have the ability to stop that cycle and feel just fine doing so.
When you think about how you respond to specific people and what you would like to change about that, what are you willing to do to make it happen? Are there certain people that you frequently find yourself reacting instead of responding to? How do you feel when that happens?

Working through this process offers us not just the opportunity to change something that is not working for us but it offers a sense of having better control, without being controlling of ourselves or others. Is there someone or a situation that you would like to respond to rather than react to?

Wednesday, December 5, 2012

The First Post

Things have finally evolved in my new practice, I think I started talking about shifting from HR Concise to an Executive Coaching practice by the end of this year. Well this first post just makes it!

The name of my new business is Evolve Executive Coaching which, after much research and rejection of other names suddenly popped up-and it describes perfectly what I am doing. Helping executives, leaders, and 'want-to-be' those titles evolve into leaders in the Digital Era.

This perfectly blends my research and work in all things "Social Business" over the past three years, draws on my HR and OD experience, and adds all the new skills I have developed lately.

Much of the research I have done on leadership in the Digital Era convinced me that the timing is perfect to offer coaching services to leaders like all of you that I have connected with both online and IRL- to help you truly lead with the new and adapted skills for this era.

What 2012 was like-constantly in Evolve Mode!

Thank-you to everyone who joins me here-I appreciate your readership and hope this new blog offers you something of value! 

What do you think is different about leadership now and will be required in the future? How much of a role do you think some of the information coming from our friends working in the neuroscience world will help us in being great going forward?